Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Rule Clarification

Just say you had a rule in your house (relationship) that stated If one person cooks dinner, the other person does the dishes, and that rule works well, but then one day a person cooks such a big meal that it is used for the next nights meal, and even though the other person heated it up shouldn't they be responsible for doing the dishes since the other person cooked dinner originally?

34 comments:

Bogart in P Towne said...

yes...cooking only counts once. No double dipping on the cooking.

But, the quesiton I have is...

Since you have kids, why are either of you cleaning. If your boys are old enough to sew Nike's in China, they sure as heck are old enough to use a little Dawn and dishwasher detergent!

Anonymous said...

Well that was very confusing. It's hard to tell who was the "cooker" the second night. But, it really doesn't matter anyway. The bottom line is YOU should have done the dishes. This is the rule to live by.

amelia said...

I don't think the person who heated up should have to do the dishes too. Don't make such a big meal next time. Besides, how many dishes are there to do if all the cooking has already been done the night before? I think it is an even trade.

Susan said...

In order to make the rule less confusing it should be a 50/50 work rule. If one person did the heating and serving then the other needs to do the dishes.
Just my opinion, but then again we don't have any such rule in my house and I would just be glad if my husband would clean up every once in awhile or at least put HIS plate in the dishwasher.

Dr Zibbs said...

I would need to know the sexes of the people involoved.

Charity Donovan said...

Ummmmm...that would depend on who did the laundry, gave the kiddos a bath, is "cooking" your child-to-be, cleaned all the pee off the toilet that she DID not put there, did the grocery shopping, oh wait...am I projecting...so sorry! lol!

Patience said...

Whoever cooks/heats/reheats shouldn't have to clean up too. That means, get in there and clean up the dishes!!

Multi-tasking Mommy said...

Geez, that's a hard one! I'm not sure where I stand on that.

Undercover Mutha said...

I'd say if someone wants to get laid that evening, then that person should suck it up and do the damn dishes. It's the little things, honey.

sari said...

I think the pregnant person should not have to do anything. That's my rule.

I can't use it now, but still.... ha ha

Jocelyn said...

I can't buy into the intial premise. He who cooks dinner should also wash up.

I am a fan of this rule because my husband cooks 98% of our dinners, and I'm a lazy sod.

eclectic said...

NO! We have the "You cook/I clean" rule in our house, and here is the corollary: Left-over night results in shared clean-up. NO EXCEPTIONS.

nikkirae said...

*laughs, only laughs*

Melinda said...

I like the rule where the person who is not pregnant does the washing up.
How do you like that rule?

Chadwick said...

I am agreeing with anonymous... Doesn't matter if she was the cooker or the cleaner - you were wrong, she was right. Haven't years of marriage taught you that by now.

My wife taught me that on the honeymoon!!

Tracey said...

Whoever "cooks" never cleans up. Even if it is just left overs.

Charlotte in Pa said...

Remember the golden rule when your wife is pregnant (or heck, even if she isn't) ... when in doubt, it's your turn. Or your fault. Or your responsibility. Whichever applies. :-)

PS - got an email about your theater's upcoming season. Which production(s) will you be in?

Steve said...

It never works for me. I wash dishes if he cooked all day or microwaved leftovers.

Stacie said...

Ummmm Bill? Just do the dishes. It'll get you much farther than arguing about it. Trust me on this. :)
Stacie

Oh, The Joys said...

May I remind you that Lauren is always right.

He dicho.

McSwain said...

I like Sari's rule.

And heating up IS cooking. At least it is at my house.

Angie @ KEEP BELIEVING said...

It depends. If I cooked the meal and hubby reheated it the next night, HE should have to do the dishes. If HE cooked the meal and I rehated it, HE should have to do this dishes.

I know, not fair. Being honest.

KEEP BELIEVING

RzDrms said...

whomever's NOT pregnant, whether it's you or lauren...that's who i think should do the cleaning up. and the cooking. and the feet-rubbing. and the back-scratching.... ::ahem::

Papa Bradstein said...

So...this was you then?

Nilbo said...

It doesn't matter what we think. What matters is you did it. You get points for that (although you lose points for whining), and you can bank those points for as long as you can remember the exact details of the event. In the case of guys, that's about one week. In the case of women, that's ... well, forever.

kalki said...

(Be careful, Lauren. It seems Bill is starting to realize that the rules change when it suits our purposes... Quick! Distract him with something shiny! Or sexy.)

Kristin said...

The man should always do the dishes. Alas, in our home, the man is a dishwashing dork, so I end up doing it all anyway. Maybe that was his plan from the beginning...

Rattling The Kettle said...

No, no, no -- re-heating leftovers is not cooking.

You could easily solve this problem either by: (a) manning up and buying a dishwasher, or (b) breaking a few things next time it's your turn to wash the dishes.

In my house, I do all the cooking, and the wife does all the dishwashing. Makes life easier.

Cole said...

Important rules clarification for you, Bill.

The Code of Real Men forbids you from repeatedly using your blog to gather support for arguments with you wife.

And surely you've learned by now all the chicks you blog for are going to support your wife out of a show of womanly solidarity.

Now you go on and put on your little apron and do the dishes, b*tch.

P.S. Does this satisfy my trash talking requirement for fantasy football?

Jenine said...

The husband should ALWAYS have to do the dishes. No matter what. My husband doesn't so someone has to pay!

daddysays said...

The way it goes in our house is one person cooks dinner, the same person does the dishes. And, that same person cooks the dinner more or less every day! And yes, that person is me!

JP said...

We have fend for yourself nights. So whatever you eat you clean up for yourself.

However, I have cleaned a few things after fend for yourself nights, so I think this is where the "for better or for worse clause" always kicks in...

Linda and Denny said...

Have that rule here too. It's morphed into "whoever serves some type of food in some manner and gets it on the table does not have to do the dishes".

ScottyG said...

that never worked in our "relationship," so now whoever cooks also cleans up - one caveat, the other has to get the kids bathed and ready for bed - sometimes it's a toss up for who gets the worst end of the deal!